This area of friendship I’m about to share with you that came about when I was seeking help from someone who said I was their friend.
Now our concept of friendship differs somewhat, but it was through this friendship that I was inspired to write what I think it means.
Also, I must say that none would have come about unless God had something to do with it.
People are put into your lives for a reason and purpose.
Most of the time we never see or do we ever look for why God is sending someone in our lives at this time and place.
We always think the obvious, but it’s what we can’t see at the time or what we choose not to see at the time, because of thinking with our flesh.
We must seek to look with our spiritual eyes and not our fleshly eyes.
Fleshly eyes are clouded by the world’s view, thru emotions and desires.
Spiritual eyes see what God wants us to see.
To bring something in our lives that we never had before and to expand our thinking in areas we neglected or need growth.
With every step of faith there is growth.
At times it takes friends to get us there.
Now there are True or lifelong friendships
There are temporary friendships or stationary friendships.
1 Samuel 18:1-3 NLT
After David had finished talking with Saul, he met Jonathan, the king’s son. There was an immediate bond between them, for Jonathan loved David. From that day on Saul kept David with him and wouldn’t let him return home. And Jonathan made a solemn pact with David, because he loved him as he loved himself.
Or yes are those who stick close than a brother.
They are there at this time in your life for a purpose.
They will be with you for the long haul.
Thru bad times, good times, failure, stumbling blocks, rich or poor, weak or strong.
You will be able to share the deepest things with them and they will not be offended, but will share their utmost and honest opinion.
They will see through your struggles to help with the right answers and at the right time.
They will be there just to listen if that is the case.
Proverbs 27:9 NLT
The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.
They will have your back as a true friend because of the purpose.
They will see the call upon your life and help you where you need to get up higher.
They will give to you the right words at the right time.
Even if they do not know it, they will play a part in your success.
Sometimes they will be given the right things to say from God, the way it should be said, so that you can figure it out and get all the answers.
Proverbs 20:6 NLT
Many will say they are loyal friends, but who can find one who is truly reliable?
You have to watch this one, I think mostly because it will sometimes be look at as true friendship when it is not.
It has its purpose too.
You cannot share very intimate details with this type of friends.
Not that they can use it against you, but that they don’t know what to say or do when faced with a dilemma.
Yes, God can and will still use them.
They all have a purpose and plan, but you must learn to recognize which one they are.
You can use certain information to give them to see how they would react to it.
Testing in life is a part of life.
Proverbs 17:17 NLT
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.
They are not the ones you can call upon at any time for help.
They will not be their when you are in lack or struggling.
If they are, it’s for their on purpose of one day reaping from you.
God’s plan of this type of friendship is also to help you grow, or to bush you to the next level.
They will not be their when you go up.
They have completed their task and have moved on.
Even though you love them both, this one you will love from a distance.
Yes, if they have grown in the place where they need to be, one day they could be in your life again.
But, for now they have done what they were supposed to do.
Loving them and leaving them is the hardest thing for people to do.
We care about everyone in our lives and we hate to move on leaving some behind.
But, it’s part of God’s plan and purpose.
Yes, you can keep in touch and even meet once and a while, but they are not at this time in any way, ready for where you are going.
Proverbs 27:17 NLT
As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.
True friendship or temporary ones
Both are in your life for a reason and some a season.
Study and be prepared to recognize both and their reason.
Recognize what you can say to one and not say to the other.
Recognize that you must let them move on
Be prepared to cut tides when the time comes with some and the ones though temporary you can stay friends but not really close ones.
This is all for the reason and purpose to prepare you for your service to affect others and bring them into the knowledge of God.
To help others to live the abundant life
Be careful not to ruin any relationships.
Proverbs 12:26 NLT
The godly give good advice to their friends; the wicked lead them astray.
Leave everyone you touch with good impressions and thoughts of you.
Real or temporary friendships
Which are you right now in some one’s life?
Psalms for Life: “The Pocket Guide to Successful Living in Christ Jesus”